Are you someone who believes that synchronicity and serendipity are experiences that happen to others and are unlikely to happen to you?  Do you tend to think that chance occurrences and development of events in a happy or beneficial way are out of reach for you?  Are you ever wondering, as you listen to someone enthusing about a fantastic synchronicity, why doesn’t that ever happen to me?

Having synchronicity and serendipity at play in your life requires the fertile ground of openness; allowing yourself to be vulnerable.  If your mind is inclined towards questioning every impulse or spontaneous action that comes to you, then you block the flow of synchronistic and serendipitous events.

Be curious, set aside being overly scripted or living according to a strict plan or a strict routine.  For instance, if one weekend you wake up and have an impulse to do something that is outside your normal weekend routine (which could be something seemingly mundane or innocuous - as in, not the stuff of what you would associate with anything significant happening to you - like watching TV at 8:00 a.m. or going for a swim which you never do, or taking a drive to a nearby village for breakfast), follow that impulse instead of resisting it.  Try saying “yes” to life rather than investing your energy in coming up with reasons and rationalizations for saying “no”.  When we dismiss and disregard the whisperings of our heart, we close the door on synchronicity and serendipity in our lives.

Playing it safe, being risk-averse, being fearful and focussed on potential negative outcomes, gets in the way of hearing the voice of your heart’s impulses: “What if I’m rebuffed?”, “What if I’m laughed at?”, “What if they look at me like I’m from Mars?”, “What if I’m duped?”, “What if it turns out to be a waste of time and money?”, “What if it turns out to be disappointing?”.  To invite synchronicity and serendipity into our lives we need to challenge our negative “what ifs” with some positive rebuttals: “What if I feel welcomed?”, “What if it turns out to be just the experience I needed?”, “What if it ends up being an experience of kinship?”, “What if it’s a personal growth experience?”, “What if it opens doors to my intended path, purpose and vocation?”, and so on.  To receive the gifts of synchronicity and serendipity we need to open ourselves up to stepping out of our comfort zone.

When you hear people talk of heeding the signs of synchronicity and serendipity, and you scratch your head wondering, “what signs, what exactly am I looking for, how will I know?”, it’s simply a matter of waiting with an open mind and heart, and following impulses instead of questioning them and finding all the reasons why something you may be drawn to do or say, is not to be pursued.  Less questioning and internal debate, and more of an attitude of willingness to explore, take a chance and experiment.  You’ll know when you are experiencing synchronicity and serendipity through its hallmark sign: flow.  When things are in flow, all feels effortless.

Far from being the purview of a select “lucky” few, synchronicity and serendipity are available to all who are willing to be open to receive their gifts.